Contributions, Love, relationships

Boy meets girl; they meet world

WeddingHandsGeneric_largeLove is a beautiful emotion that can be felt so much deeper especially when shared between two people. That feeling when you can be in the same space as someone without saying anything but feeling the same way, someone that makes you laugh so hard and the pain in your belly feels good and welcome, someone who makes you happy but when you’re wrong is not afraid to set you right, someone who has your back no matter what in complicated situations, someone that has the ability to calm you down when no one else could. That’s love, or at least I think it is.

Then there are things that can destroy love; things inside and outside of the sacred bond shared between two people in love, things that should be mundane and innate; things that are so obsolete that they are in our time, in our century, archaic and cruel. These are the things that stand in the way of two people, an earthquake that crumbles the foundation and leaves a gaping hole in trust, leaving love questionable.

When I met this guy earlier this year, it was an instant connection – this I confess. It was what you would call too-good-to-be-true; we were, in all sense of the word, inseparable. We experienced the world together. He was an introvert, and I was more of an extrovert, so we balanced each other out. I didn’t like to cook, and of course some guys have a problem with this, but he didn’t. On the contrary he loved to cook – it was his passion. It even got to the point where I wanted so bad to cook for him, and when I did, he loved my meals – I hope he did.

And then, the most unexpected stereotype blindsided me…

Honestly, when is it alright for a third party to decide who you love? Who is it that has a say in who you choose to be with? To what extent – if they do have it – is that “say”? What if your father or mother – or both -, siblings, friends, boss, pastor, deacon, or even your make-up artist, didn’t like someone you were dating, and asked, or demanded that you called off your relationship? What would you do?

This guy and I are both Christians, but from different denominations. We come from the same country, but were brought up with different traditions. Yet, I was being judged not for who I am, and what my ambitions are, but for where I come from. This is the world we live in.

ddhdj We are all Christians, but yet as Christians we discriminate against each other, failing to practice what we preach. We condemn the wrong in the world and are still the first to do those wrongs to our fellow brethren. We forget that in the beginning, there was one Church, and a denomination follows the same God, the same Christ who died for you and I. So, why the hate?

Why is it so hard to support the happiness and love between two people? Why do we destroy love, because of misguided traditions? Misguided beliefs?

Guess what?

That’s what happened to my relationship, that’s what happened to me.

djdjdmThis backward mentality of tribalism, or denominationism – even if it’s not a word – and discrimination based on religion, is affecting the world, and making it hard for progress.

 Has Christ been divided into factions? Was I, Paul, crucified for you? Were any of you baptized in the name of Paul? Of course not! – 1 Corinthians 1:12 (NLT)

For Christ himself has brought peace to us. He united Jews and Gentiles into one people when, in his own body on the cross, he broke down the wall of hostility that separated us. – Ephesians 2:14 (NLT)

djedjejjWhat do you think? I look left and right and this is happening around me. How do you think we should help prevent this? Please spread this and leave your comments below.


Moving beyond tribalism/denominationalism
Moving beyond tribalism/denominational-ism

3 thoughts on “Boy meets girl; they meet world”

  1. Interesting post!
    There are so many factors why third parties in relationships are good and why they are just horrible. It’s impossible to state all, obviously so I’d use an example. In the event that the ex of your “new friend” is giving advice, that’s questionable. However, in the event where adults, best friends, who care deeply about your well being are dropping their two cents, then maybe it’s worth listening to. Sometimes, when we’re in love, we don’t see it all. If it was solely for differing beliefs, could it be that the fundamentals of your truth differ so much?

    The fact that we all go to church, does not ultimately mean that we believe the same things. It’s sad that not all church goers believe in Jesus. Even sitting in the same church, the next person may not believe what you believe. At the end of it all, I would say always examine your core beliefs before you fall too deep in, or you might end up getting blind-sided and creating a divided home, when raising kids.

    Who you choose to be with should bring you total peace, that even if someone were to contend your love, you’d stay strong and firm. It’s not about church and denominations, I think it’s much deeper.

    … the reality is that each christian is different from the next, not to even speak about denominational differences.

    Prayer, Direction and Individual Character!

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    1. You just hit the nail on the head!! So much truth!! I strongly agree that it’s important to weigh a lot of things, before any commitment. Prayer and a strong faith in God for his Will to be done is more paramount above all things and also approval of both parents.

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