This post is going to be very short and straight to the point. The word “judging” is what has been on my heart to address, and that’s what I want to do in this post. This post isn’t to discuss how judging stems or what judging is all about. I’m writing based on my observation and how people loosely use the term. So if you are the one being judged or you’re the one judging; hopefully, you take a few things out of this post.
People have different personalities. You can’t judge people for the mere fact that what makes you up is not what makes them up. The only thing you can do is call them and let them know what you feel is wrong, in love, and that’s if it’s someone you are close to. If it isn’t someone you are close to, go on your knees and pray for them. Our character has to exhibit tolerance for the different personalities. That being said, the saying “Don’t judge me ” has been used wrongly. How do you choose who to marry if you don’t pass some form of assessments and judge one way or the other? The main point is to stop judging people’s motives, but you judge actions, you need to form assessments of what is right or wrong. A man looks at the outside; God sees the inside.
Regarding dressing and how one should dress if you are born again, I believe even if you like dressing in a particular manner then that has to be in moderation. Do not do anything or wear anything that you know, would cause another to sin even if it’s what you like. If we do something, and it causes another to sin, then we are going to be judged by that. That being said, you cannot force it down the throat of another fellow Christian that they can’t wear crop tops or bum shots. You don’t get rewarded for being rude or for being obnoxious. There are people out there that are living self-righteous life and are looking down on everybody, and putting everyone down. When you put people down, guess what, they are going to put you down. Correct them with love and if they don’t listen, it’s fine. Don’t make a fuss about it.
You cannot be judgmental. When you share your faith, you should do it with gentleness and respect. Christianity is not for weaklings, for the faint of heart. It takes courageous men/women to follow Jesus. All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. It might not be dressing, but you know what you are struggling with as well. Focus on your struggles. There are certain things you are struggling with as well e.g. Drinking, stealing, lying. That is all carnality but faith comes by renewing of the mind and renewing of the mind by hearing the word of God. Modesty is the bottom line.
People have also used this saying “God is looking at your heart and not your dressing” as a defense mechanism, well who are you to argue. Just keep quiet and move on. God is the only one that knows what He is looking at.
Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. – Romans 12:2 (NLT)
As Christians, we have to renew our mind; that’s what differentiates canal Christians from matured Christians. You can be a Christian, and your mind is not renewed. Everything is based on a personal conviction, to be honest, so please let’s stop judging or using the term loosely to justify our actions. As Christians, our goal is to save souls, not condemning every single thing and saying no it’s not right, yes it is right. Everyone is running their own race, not others and there’s no competition. What really matters is you have a relationship with God and that you are growing, using the gifts he has given you. We cannot clean a fish before we catch it. The person you are trying to tell this is bad won’t listen to you until the person is convicted. Let your actions speak, not your words. Mix with the Pharisees and Sadducee’s. It is only when you mix with them, you can draw them in.