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Lessons learnt | Advice to my younger self

OneYearOfBloggingBelle-amieBeautyFashionLifestyleBlog_zps9034f759It’s been one successful year of blogging!! I started this blog, a year ago on my birthday because God laid it on my heart to do so and help my generation. I didn’t know what to write about, how to start and what to do to keep it going but He took charge of every moment! My first post was on purpose. That’s still one of the top post on my blog so be sure to check it out if you haven’t. I’m so grateful for all God has done in my life and through me. Huge thanks to everyone who follows my blog and has contributed in one way or the other to bring light to this world. Thanks for the likes, the shares, comments, and to everyone who has contacted me for words of encouragement, prayers and to just talk. He who has started a great thing in your life would perfect all that concerns you, Amen! If this is your first time viewing my blog, you’re welcome! Please take some time to explore the contents and I pray they bless you. I’m also thankful for God’s work and the number of people this blog has reached and has helped. It’s my prayer that the information you get from this blog, continually helps you live a meaningful life, one that pleases your Creator.

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So with every new year that comes, it’s important to self-reflect, to take stock of what you’ve achieved and your plans going forward. There’s nothing new I’m writing on; you’ve probably heard or seen most of these, but I just want to give personal advice to anyone reading this. Just a heartfelt advice to celebrate this anniversary and hey we all need cautioning every now and then


  1. Be YOUrself: I think it’s very easy for people to say just be yourself. But especially when we live in such a social media age, where we get a snapshot into every body’s life, we easily get lost in everybody’s individuality. Be yourself is the best thing you can do for yourself and the best gift you can give others. You shouldn’t judge your success based on other people’s successes. Everyone’s journey is different, everyone’s story is different. The experiences and opportunities you have may not be available to others. You are the best version of yourself, and no one can be you. Embrace your God given talents. Don’t try and be a carbon copy of someone else who has hidden problems that unknowingly can affect you just trying to be like them. Be original!
  2. Always see the best in people and love freely without any obligation: Even a mad man, tell him he has a nice scarf. You never know who could be a blessing someday and who you could be a blessing to. Invest in social capital. Make emotional deposits and be good to people.
  3. Drop dead weight: Don’t hang on to relationships that literally can bring you down. Some friendships are only supposed to last for a season. Our friendship should not be based on how many times we can be there for someone’s birthday or special occasions. Support comes in different ways, learn to say no when something is going to drain you down. What really counts is when things are down, who is there for you, that is what real friendship is.
  4. Read important books: You are the same person you are in 5 years except the friends you have and the books you read. Books have a lot of information that can help you. Someone has experienced what you’re experiencing and wants to transfer that wisdom to enable you, live a simpler life. Self-help books, business books, books on leadership, motivational books, and books on spirituality go a long way in shaping you. Get your hands on some.
  5. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes: Challenges are for a moment, and they build you up. You’ll look back and smile. Do not worry. Don’t look at yourself where you are, look at yourself based on where God is taking you. Enjoy the trip, hold on to God and knows He has your best interest in mind at all times. Now that technology has taken over the world, we are afraid to make mistakes because there will always be one person watching over your life to remind you of it. That shouldn’t stop us from taking leaps and taking chances because at the end of the day, no one is perfect and we will all make mistakes and part of the good thing about growing older are that you get to learn from those things. There’s nothing wrong with making mistakes as long as you learn from them and don’t repeat them. You’ll never get to where you want to be if you don’t eliminate some of the wrong choices Mistakes can be in different forms, from relationships to choosing the wrong degree course or anything similar. But sometimes you have to do the wrong thing, to say okay this is what I actually want to do. The power of life is the power of growing, and you won’t have so much wisdom if you didn’t make some of this mistakes.
  6. Embrace your singleness. Do not rush into a relationship, just for the fun of it and because others around you are doing it. Never confuse singleness with being alone. Singleness is a state to be pursued, not avoided. It’s a positive thing.being-singleIt took me so long to realize that relationships get better the more single you become. Grow in that singleness so you can understand yourself a lot better and get ready for that relationship God wants you to have.
  7. Don’t be in a rush to grow up: Appreciate every moment. As you grow up, you’ll have more responsibilities, and there’s no going back to that young age when things were a lot easier. You only have a short amount of time not to have responsibilities, so enjoy it. Don’t rush your life wanting to be grown, just because people out there paint a rosy picture for you.Everyone’s life has stages, just learn to be present in that stage, don’t wish your life away. heick-habits-students-retreat-VeerHave a focused and determined mindset. Focus on the positive things: We should stop focusing on how far we have to go and focus on how far we’ve come. What we focus on, is what we magnify. One thing I kept focusing on, was my relationship with God. When I focused on how far I had to go, I made room for comparison; I started comparing my relationship with God to other people’s relationship, and that led to discouragement and sometimes that can cause one to be stagnant. But when we focus on our growth, it excites us and more times we are motivated to do better.

Thanks again! Please if you have any questions, or suggestions, any topic you want me to write on, send an email to or fill out the contact form and we will keep the conversation rolling!






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