We all have those moments in our lives, where bad or negative things happen to us. A friendship breaks down, failed an exam, lost a job or an exit of a loved one. And you ask yourself, “Why did this happen to me? I don’t deserve this” And you can’t seem to make sense of it. We often look for an answer by blaming others or putting it down to just destiny but rarely do we reflect on ourselves, on our own actions.
First, you should always ask yourself if there’s anything you could have done differently. But of course, not always could you have done anything differently. Certain things in life are just tests, to build you up for something greater which lies ahead. The answer to the question, “Why did this happen to me?” lies within yourself. You write it, positive as well as negative moments are part of our lives, our story. Every successful person has a story to tell. No one can influence others without a story. It’s your story that shapes you, and you should be encouraged, knowing you’ll have a great future based on this story.
In fact, you grow the most from negative or difficult experiences; that’s when real growth happens. So look at it as an opportunity. Embrace it, explore it, challenge it! At the end, who you are is also decided by how you face difficult moments in your life. I don’t want you to focus on the question “why” but rather on the solution, “what” What can I learn from it? What can I do to make it better? Negative moments are necessary for us to mature, to learn, to grow. Prepare yourself mentally for it. Accept them when they come and learn as much from them as you can. Sometimes, it’s the uncertainty in life, that makes it worth living. And as Steve Jobs said, the dots always connects, but it’s up to you, to see the connection.